Seriously, how do people get through this stuff and then decide to have another child?
Oh yeah, that's how.
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Frustration and A Little Cuteness
So, I've got nothing today. The cold that has been taunting me for the past week came back in full force last night. Luckily, Sophie decided to sleep a little better, thwarting my plans to begin the Cry-It-Out method. I think she might be on to me. As I told my mom in a VERY tearful conversation last night, I am just done. I haven't had a good night's sleep in so long, I don't remember what it is like and although the naps help me get through the day, they are no substitute for a solid 8 hours of sleep. I am increasingly on edge. Quicker to cry, quicker to yell. I am less concerned and more frustrated when Sophie cries. I mean, it almost makes me angry and I don't think that's the best attitude to have towards a child that is absolutely not doing it on purpose. Which is what I say to myself over and over when I am trying not to throw my shoe through the window in frustration. I need to go meditate or something.
Seriously, how do people get through this stuff and then decide to have another child?
Oh yeah, that's how.
Seriously, how do people get through this stuff and then decide to have another child?
Oh yeah, that's how.
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People decide to have another child when everyone is healthy and they aren't thinking about times like when the stomach flu rages through the family. Cleaning up mess from one child, while trying to keep another child from stepping in it... FUN! (ok, not so much)
ReplyDeleteNot sure if this is your thing, but have you tried co-sleeping? It worked wonders for us for getting a full night's sleep.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry. There's really nothing else to say that would actually help, is there? The only thing I know is, remember before you had her, and you seriously could not imagine waking up multiple times a night for a week, much less months, much less YEARS? And you did, somehow anyway? That's how you do it. And yes, I'm a huge crab more days than I like to admit. But by all means, do what it takes to survive, whether it's going to her, or letting her cry it out -- and don't let either approach make you feel guilty (HA HA HA)
ReplyDeleteflash forward years from now. a holiday meal. sitting around a table with your kids...their spouses...your grand-kids. that mental image does it for me every day.
ReplyDeletei look to sara to step up when i'm down...and vice versa. if we didn't...it could be painful.
In my case, all it takes is a holiday weekend + alcohol = baby.
ReplyDeleteEasy equation, no? Now, because I am an educated and intelligent woman, I've changed it up a bit to holiday weekend + alcohol + pill = no mo' baby.
That being said, girlfriend, you and I are both kinda in the same spot: frustrated and tired. Seriously, there needs to be a pill for THAT.
You will probably want another after you get more sleep. Sophie is so darn cute, you will be powerless against her spells to make you want more.
ReplyDeleteCIO worked quite well for us, BTW.
If I had a nickle for everytime I said "I'm done!", I'd be a rich woman! lol
ReplyDeleteYou'll get through it, it shouldn't take too much longer. Usually around the age of 2 or so. (closer to the or so, lol. )
The bad thing about when this miracle time occurs? This means you begin to forget the last 2 years of hectic, sleeplessness and you go and say,...."Oh, I think I'd like to have another child now!" SUCKER! lol
Hang in there! I think most moms get frustrated and sometimes yell at their children so don't beat yourself up for it.
ReplyDeleteEven if you have to let Sophie cry it out for your own sanity, I promise you she will still smile at you and love you because, guess what, she'll end up more rested as well!
I wish I could give you a magic pill to make you both get a good nights sleep! I did the cry out method with both kids around 9 mths. It killed me more than them! With Cohen, being my first, I sat outside his door crying until he stopped the first night (20 minutes). It took only about 3-4 nights of doing this and each night the crying got shorter!! But I am sooo glad I did, both of my kids are great sleepers and have learned to put themselves to sleep. So if Addi does wake up in the middle of the night, she just finds her binkie and goes back down! Find the best method for the both of you and rest will make a BIG difference!! Don't be sooo hard on yourself! Call me if you need to :)
ReplyDeleteadopt my mantra...This Too Shall Pass! seriously I know your pain
ReplyDelete(7 kids remember??) and there's nothing worse than lack of sleep! I had forgotten what that felt like now that my youngest is in elementary school but when we got a new puppy a few years ago, I had to get up with him several times a night and all came rushing back!
I'm a big fan of the Ferber method (my last name is Ferber but sadly we didn't come up with the method!) and it truly saved us...7 times!
Best of luck, chickie! This too, shall pass (and it will be bittersweet when it does).
ReplyDeleteThat's exactly how.
ReplyDeleteI haven't had a good night's sleep in over 6 years. Wish I was joking.
I think some people don't decide - they just forget about the condom in the heat of the moment.
ReplyDeleteThe sleep thing is hard. I could tell you what's (sometimes) worked for us, but different things work for different people so I'm not even sure it would help. I guess the whole mom thing is hard. Good of course, but hard.
we quickly forget when the child sleeps thru the night and decide to torture ourselves again with another wonderful bundle of joy that keeps you up all night!lOL
ReplyDeleteSo I think you are where I'll be in about three months. Heck, I think I might already be there. CRW gave up those long stretches I was bragging about to you last week. I was up 2 times the past 2 nights. Saturday night was the WORST. After the 3am feeding, I couldn't fall back to sleep. 1 1/2 hours later, as I drift off to sleep, Ryan's alarm from the morning before accidently went off. I cried.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you don't feel good - blech - that's never fun. Add on lack of sleep and a baby interrupting your grand scheme of things and it's not a pretty picture.
ReplyDeleteBoth of my boys were AWFUL sleepers when they were little. The one thing I kept telling myself is they won't be 18 and still coming downstairs in the middle of the night to crawl in my bed and they won't be waking up at all in their teens. That helped get me through...and I even heard myself tell my husband that several times.
Try to get some YOU time in there somewhere to refuel. ((()))
Thanks, everyone for your kind words and advice. I'm going to bed right now!
ReplyDeleteMy kids do the same thing. I decide to let them cry and they sleep. WTF?
ReplyDeleteAnd rest assured that with the second it is easier but still hard to let them cry b/c you have the first one to deal with too.
They start sleeping through the night and then you forget what it was like. It'll get better, I promise.
ReplyDeleteHugs Cara--I know what a nightmare it is. My second son was a horrible sleeper and by husband and I were at our wit's end. We finally did the CIO and that ultimately worked, though it took awhile--longer than what the "experts" said. And I went on to have 3 more kids after him! It WILL get better--I promise!!
ReplyDeleteOh, the sleep deprivation. It does horrible things to a mama. I'm glad to hear the Bean slept better, and I hope it's a new habit she'll keep up. Hope you feel better too!
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